Daddy's Little Girl - Part 9

Daddy’s Little Girl – Part 9

Good Morning, and praise the Lord.  Continuing with the series, please turn with me to Numbers chapter 27.

Numbers 27

Then came the daughters of Zelophehad, the son of Hepher, the son of Gilead, the son of Machir, the son of Manasseh, of the families of Manasseh the son of Joseph: and these are the names of his daughters; Mahlah, Noah, and Hoglah, and Milcah, and Tirzah.  And they stood before Moses, and before Eleazar the priest, and before the princes and all the congregation, by the door of the tabernacle of the congregation, saying, our father died in the wilderness, and he was not in the company of them that gathered themselves together against the Lord in the company of Korah; but died in his own sin, and had no sons. Why should the name of our father be done away from among his family, because he hath no son? Give unto us therefore a possession among the brethren of our father. And Moses brought their cause before the Lord.  And the Lord spake unto Moses, saying, the daughters of Zelophehad speak right: thou shalt surely give them a possession of an inheritance among their father's brethren; and thou shalt cause the inheritance of their father to pass unto them. And thou shalt speak unto the children of Israel, saying, if a man die, and have no son, then ye shall cause his inheritance to pass unto his daughter. And if he have no daughter, then ye shall give his inheritance unto his brethren. And if he have no brethren, then ye shall give his inheritance unto his father's brethren. And if his father have no brethren, then ye shall give his inheritance unto his kinsman that is next to him of his family, and he shall possess it: and it shall be unto the children of Israel a statute of judgment, as the Lord commanded Moses. And the Lord said unto Moses, get thee up into this mount Abarim, and see the land which I have given unto the children of Israel. And when thou hast seen it, thou also shalt be gathered unto thy people, as Aaron thy brother was gathered. For ye rebelled against my commandment in the desert of Zin, in the strife of the congregation, to sanctify me at the water before their eyes: that is the water of Meribah in Kadesh in the wilderness of Zin. And Moses spake unto the Lord, saying, let the Lord, the God of the spirits of all flesh, set a man over the congregation, which may go out before them, and which may go in before them, and which may lead them out, and which may bring them in; that the congregation of the Lord be not as sheep which have no shepherd. And the Lord said unto Moses, take thee Joshua the son of Nun, a man in whom is the spirit, and lay thine hand upon him; and set him before Eleazar the priest, and before all the congregation; and give him a charge in their sight. And thou shalt put some of thine honor upon him, that all the congregation of the children of Israel may be obedient. And he shall stand before Eleazar the priest, who shall ask counsel for him after the judgment of Urim before the Lord: at his word shall they go out, and at his word they shall come in, both he, and all the children of Israel with him, even all the congregation. And Moses did as the Lord commanded him: and he took Joshua, and set him before Eleazar the priest, and before all the congregation: And he laid his hands upon him, and gave him a charge, as the Lord commanded by the hand of Moses.

This is the story of five young women who were descendants of Joseph, of the twelve tribes of Israel.  Back in those days, women were not allowed to own anything.  In fact, they were treated as property.

After the death of their father, they had to come before Moses and ask for a portion of land that he left behind.  You see, when the death of a parent occurred, particularly the father, all their worldly possessions were handed down to their son or sons.  Unfortunately, he only had daughters, and had they not spoken up, they would be penniless and without a home.

So they came to the man of God to state their case.  The ladies told Moses that their father died in the wilderness.  It’s important to note here that they let him know that he wasn’t part of the uprising that took place with Korah, Dathan and their followers.  Basically, he died alone and it appears that it was of natural causes.

These sisters asked a valid question.  Why should their father’s name die with him?  Why couldn’t they take a hold of his land and work it for themselves?  There weren’t any other men in their lives, so they had to take care of it, and trust in the Lord.

Moses did the right thing by consulting God for direction and how to answer them.  The Lord gave him specific directions which would not only affect these ladies, but future women in the course of history.  He gave the edict that if a man dies and has no sons, then the daughters would be welcome to the inheritance left behind, and if no daughters, then it would be passed to his brothers.

In that day and time, it was a big deal, and completely fair.  Unlike today, where modern day women are large and in charge in terms of the business world, becoming entrepreneurs at an alarming rate, all women were used for was to procreate, take care of the home and children.  Now, let me give a disclaimer here, because society has it twisted.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman who gets married, has children, and is the keeper of the home.  That is the divine order of things.  It actually saves money, and keeps you humble to know that God would charge us with taking care of our husbands, children and the house.  Now, I know that I’m going to get some push back on that one, but hear me out.

Sisters, I can hear the collective screaming from you saying, “…girl, I ain’t fixing to take care of no man!”  I agree with you to a point, but watch this.  If the brother is leaving the house every day, going to a 9 to 5, at least cover him in prayer, prepare his clothes, make his breakfast and lunch, throw a little love note in his briefcase, and send him on his way.

If you have little ones at home, bathe and clean them up, if age appropriate, teach them something, play with them, and have a schedule.  When you put them down for a nap, start preparing your dinner, and make sure that you and they look adorable when your husband gets home.

It’s time out for the do rags and rollers, meeting him at the door when he comes home from a long hard day at work.  You have no idea what he encounters on the other side of that door, so you need to be praying without ceasing for your husband and children.  Keep your house clean so he will be refreshed and renewed when he sees his loving wife and children who can’t wait to jump in his arms.

This will keep his mind from wandering to other attractive sisters, when he realizes that Ruth is at home waiting for him.  I promise you that he will honor you.  I’m trying to help you guys out, because younger women have a hard time hearing this, because they have their heads in the clouds, thinking that they’re going to marry a buff guy who looks like The Rock, with a BMW and an obese house, and they dream of having beautiful kids and a 6 figure bank account.

Now all that is cute and all, but whose going to take care of the mansion?  He may not want to hire a nanny and housekeepers to cook, clean and take care of your kids.  This is real life, baby, and the Lord will give you a reality check, because it says specifically in His word what the role of a wife is, to learn from seasoned and wisdom filled women who have been there, and to stay at home and mind your own business.

I know that the Real Housewives of wherever is entertaining for those who watch it, but it’s filled with drama and chaos that you really don’t need.  Trust in the Lord, and lean not to your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.  It’s really simple.

Instead of trying to compete with the boys, how about you develop your own skill set, so that you can have an at home business?  When your babies go off to school, then you can spread your horizons and see what’s out there in terms of making it work with your business.  I promise you that God will bless your endeavors, if you include Him on the front end, and your family will honor you for your sacrifice of not trying to keep up with the Joneses, and not being there for your husband and children when they need you.

I speak from experience that no amount of money is worth not being there for a recital, soccer game or formal event your husband’s job is having, because you’re too busy trying to keep up with an impossibly lavish lifestyle that you won’t be able to take with you in the end.  Think about it, and thank the Lord for His wisdom.  May the Lord bless you, and we’ll see you tomorrow, God willing.