Are you dating me for my daughters?

I was lead to share this with you. So many story we hear everyday about a boyfriend molested a child so ask this question and please share with others. "ARE YOU DATING ME FOR MY DAUGHTERS, SON?" boyfriends are molesting sons too. I separated from my ex-husband when my oldest daughter was 16 years old and she was well DEVELOPED and my baby girl was 13 years old and developing very quickly. I was not going to take a chance on putting my girls in harms way because of my flesh, NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.

When I walk out the home I made one promise to myself and that was I would not date anyone or bring them around my daughters until they where grown. What you have to see is I was raised by alcoholic and I had so many uncles it was sad most of them where Perverts with a capitol "P". I remember Uncle Teddy giving me a ride on his motorcycle I was probably 13 and I always thought he was sweet and I will never forget him telling me to get a boy in the neighborhood to break me in and then we can have sex, I was flabbergasted he seemed so sweet, Jesus I ask him to take me home and he did.

None you can see why I always sleep with one eye open and that is a sad way to live. But I bless the name of the LORD, again I was never molested but even my godfather Uncle Dave had a crooked eye and he make insinuation to me on my 16th birthday but again the LORD intervene and I was able to leave. Many days I thank God because he knew what I could bear and what would throw me off the trains so I thank God for his protection in just the nick of time because I would not have been responsible for my action. We don’t know how these things effect our children trust me I had issued that is why I stayed in an abusive marriage for 20 years but I thank God for Jesus coming along and liberating me and cursing the curse that plague my life, hallelujah! Our children are effected by our discussion no doubt about it as I see my children in action I know why they do what they do because of my discussions; likewise with me and my sister. Thank God for a praying Grand mom that stayed on her knees for us.

I joke about it all the time but it really not funny. I believe my Mom would have given any one of us to feed her habit of control to anyone of those men; guess what she might have. I look at my sisters and the issue each of us face and I know it because of our upbringing and generational curses that have plagued us. I know Mothers who groomed their children to be drug dealers and like my mother to win a rich man. My dad was innocent either he was forever telling my sister to marry rich and remember him tell my baby girl she didn't have to worry she was pretty and a man would take care of her. I had to rebuke him in the name of Jesus. I remember my sister bring this older man home he was too old for her and my mom smiling and my daughter was there and he pick her up I went crazy.......I said not on my watch!

NOW knowing all that I refused to be dating for my daughters. My mom had seven beautiful girls and I was raised that our looks/body was our meal ticket and I was the rebellious one and didn't go for that, NO. I refused to sell my body for jewelry, clothing, hair or a place to stay. I was homeless with my daughters and son and knew Men who would have loved to get their hands on me and a little change was nothing to them but again I REFUSED. See the devil is very tricky they look at you with your girls and believe me I have been mistaken many of days for being my daughter’s sisters because my children are very well developed. I never took it for a compliment because that means you see my girls as older.

We have to be very mindful of the devices the enemy uses. I read so many stories and I get upset in my inner man because I know the working of the enemy towards us he want to rob, kill and destroy us and our seeds. Our children must be our #1 priority nothing is more important or greater. I know our flesh gets weak I know I am human but not at the cost of my daughters or my son (Footnote: Men on the down low will date you to get to your son SO DON'T BE FOOLED). If you have to date don't bring them to your home.....WHERE IS IT WRITTEN THAT THEY HAVE TO MEET YOUR CHILDREN, KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE, and OR BECAUSE A PART OF YOUR PARENTING ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE NOT TALKING MARRIAGE! (Footnote: MAKE SURE THEY ARE NOT MARRYING YOU FOR YOUR DAUGHTER)

Words of Wisdom tell the person if you MUST DATE I meet you such and such; we can go to your house etc. If they ask WHY tell them you are raising impressionable children and you want them to think you are PERFECT. My son is going to be 18 years old and HE THINKS I AM PERFECT and guess what I like that...... Don't get me wrong he know I have faults and I suffer from PMS two days out of the month and I might be going through menopause BUT IN HIS EYES I AM PERFECT. My Baby girl is forever trying to set me up on a date and we laugh but my Oldest she ain't having it she gets mad if someone tries to talk to me.

You are saying WHAT are you trying to say.......I was a mother and my job was to keep my children protected. My job was to lead by example so I couldn't be don't have sex if I had Uncle Johnny, Larry, Pau, Michael, Steve and Frank staying in my home every other month here come another our children mimic us trust me. My grandson know how to hug WHY because we gave him hugs I so Joey give grand mom a hug and he run and give me a hug. My point is we have to keep our daughters and sons safe and we don't people. People put on facades and fool you! I will be a liar if I tell you I have not been fooled in the church and out so we can be easily fooled into believing a lie especially if that is what our flesh wants.

If your boyfriend has a short temper you don't ask him to babysit your son/daughters. If he pulls on you and hits you he is going to hit a crying baby. If he says your child needs a beating when you are out of their sight he is going to beat them. If he tells you your daughter is developing and is always looking at her slightly then he up to something. Trust me there are signs and NO MAN IS WORHT your daughter's future we can let our desire and wants lead to destruction for our children. If you don't believe me I am sure a mother who child was raped by her boyfriend will tell you other wise. IF YOUR DAUGHTER SAY MOM I DON'T LIKE HIM HE SEEMS SHIFTY........ TRUST HER SHE KNOWS.

We have to take a stand and if have to be lonely then so be it........ I am going to be 43 in April my children are grow up and if God's willing I will meet Prince Charming yeah I romantic.......He will not be dating for my daughters/son because they are older and wiser and they can help me discern a man character, hallelujah. It was the grace of God that kept me during this time...... I developed a relationship with Christ Jesus and I allowed him to be my husband and he was the best husband I could ever ask for he provided, protected and persuading me to love and trust him only. If it had not been for the LORD on my side where would I be? Jesus is a keeper if you want to be KEPT.

WOMEN, So ask yourself Are you dating me for my daughters? and is the ramification of the answer worth being fooled. We read so many tragic stories everyday about our daughters/sons and why there are the way they are. Prayer changes everything; a relationship with Christ Jesus; and the need to know our children are important and we are to protect them. I am ministering to a young lady NOW who has been raped by an Uncle, molested from the age of 4-10 by her mother's boyfriend and she feels all alone. My heart grieves because everyday the enemy is stealing our children innocence! I joined PEAS IN THEIR PODS TO HELP OUR CHILDREN AND EDUCATION PEOPLE TO HELP PRESERVE THE INNOCENCE OF A CHILD.

Evangelist Annette Chesson
Pray Now Ministry
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Pastor of Evangelism
New Destiny Worship Center